It's cold in Holland, it's rainy and stormy.
Sometimes i think that's beautiful.
It's like you love your home even more.

But mostly i complain about it.
I complain a lot.
I don't want to do that anymore.
Another thing to learn.
Isn't life one big school?

Today i told myself this...

I am really planning on reminding myself every day not to be too sad.
Sadness is not a thing.
It's just in your mind.
Whatever comes to your mind, can also go away.
As simple as that.

Yesterday evening i couldn't sleep and i wrote down some words.
I am aware of the fact i am not going to be a famous writer, but i just wanted to share these words with you.

Some cute things i found

(It's from the Spanish label David Delfin)

I found this gorgeous Swedish label via Frolic. It's called Nygårdsanna.
Oh, how i love it. Let winter arrive!

This cosy room, via the always inspiring Joanna Goddard.

The gorgeous Liya Kebede, photographed by Paolo Roversi.
Via here.


A beautiful fall picture to end this post...



Anonymous said...

I have to admit, as much as I complain about the cold Winter weather, I kind of like it, I dont know what or why I like it, I just do, especially when its raining and I can see the rain drops sliping down the glass window and the fact that I can wear lots of layers. So I guess I need to stop complaining and enjoying the beauty each day brings, cause I guess there is beauty in everything.

Fantastic pictures.

Raquel said...

i just read your poem that you wrote
and its so beautiful and exactly what im feeling at the moment
however you were able to express that feeling with beautiful words while i just feel sadness.
and i too feel sad most of times and would rather listen to john lennon moan in my ear about holding hands then ever believe that love could really exist ever again.
farewell and good luck

beverley said...

what you wrote was so incredibly beautiful.

notebookdoodles said...

i completely agree, mila!
if you want to be happy, it's up to you.
it is also up to you if you want to remain sad.
the cards are in your hands, my dear.

cheer up!


AJ said...

Very nice post!!
Nothing is ever as bad as it seems when you are looking back at it from a distance.


makemoremistakes said...

You are beautiful.

I've been having a disappointing night- people are letting me down, and it's making me sad- but thank you for reminding me that I don't have to be sad.

I hope you are well my dear.


allison said...

This post was amazing. I have to remind myself every day to not be sad, too.

Where is that deer photo from? I have an obsession with deer, even a mini-deer collection!

Stay well and not sad!


timewaster said...

quite stunning photography, quite touching choice of words.

Beaut!fully Br()ken said...

I just came across your blog. And I love this post of yours. It's totally amazing. Your poem, your words..everything is just so touching ! I love this post of yours and the sadness part...I totally love it !!! Love the pictures you've posted !! I think you're an awesome writer !!

babelfish said...

I love that shot of the quote ' I need you to be -not sad'. Love the b&w photo-shoot.

Lisa said...

this is stunning.

everything is in our heads.
our mind is so powerful.
i swear i can think myself to feel something i actually do not.

i truly hope the sadness falls away...

we can only hold one thought in out mind at a time, so if it is positive all the better.
negativity can creep in there too easily.
i know all too well.

sending all my love your way beautiful mila.

Rebecca said...

It's cold and rainy in Sweden as well. I kinda like it when I'm at home but when I have to go to work at 6 oclock in the morning I just want to kill whoever decides the weather.

Funny thing is though, as much as I complain about the weather when it's cold and rainy, I really don't like hot weather either. I guess nothing's good enough for me... haha.

Hope all is well with you, Mila.

poeta fit, non nascitur said...

the second photograph is sooo beautiful and melancholy. very lovely.

shill said...

liya's gorgeous!!!

[Tara] said...

I hope you cheer up...your blog ALWAYS cheers me up!!

shilvia said...

you write beautifully :) and very pretty pictures too!!!

Ivonne from Self Exposed said...

LOVE your blog, always makes me not sad to come in here...
AND I am happy to say I'm in LOVE at the moment... hope it lasts or at least, that the feeling of happiness stays in my heart through the winter.
LOVE Mila!

Marina said...

Nice blog... Are you interesting in a link exchange with my blog :
Bottes pas cher
Marina (from France)

agnes said...

i don't really know what to say about this. Everything is so beautifully written and done in a sophiscated way.

i am just so in love with your blog. :)


StickyKitten said...

Aw, I love the deer picture~cute=)

Robin said...

Mooie foto's! en idd dan ben je zo blij met je huis omdat het buiten dan zo'n vershrikkelijk weer is!

Matilda Iréne Linnéa said...

Beautiful post Mila! <3

Missa said...

My heart breaks for you Mila because I know that in the end everything will work out as it should and it will all make sense one day, but I also know how hard it is waiting to get to that point and how it feels as though it will never happen.

Hang in there though, because it WILL eventually all make sense, and one day you will even look back on these days when you felt such raw and intense emotions with an odd sense of nostalgia. At least that’s how I feel when I read your words :)

Beautiful post dear <3

Mila said...

Thank you all so indredibly much for your comments! You don't know how much they all mean to me...

To answer the question about the photograph of the deer: i found it on one of the great Tunblr blogs i recently discovered.
- http://dilaudid.tumblr.com/
- http://kari-shma.tumblr.com/
- http://finallyseeing.tumblr.com/
- http://sleepanddream.tumblr.com/
- http://coldhearted.tumblr.com/

lopelope said...

the spanish one is David delfin.

Mila said...

Thank you so much Lopelope, i'll add the link to his site right away!

esme and the lane way said...

Lovely... and I like the look of the fashion label stuff, it looks great.

ashley said...

beautiful post mila, i love the way you write~ perhaps it is beautiful mostly because it does not lie, it is real and unedited and that is the way writing should be.
i love the room image~ so dreamy,
be well.
x ashley

Female Action Star said...

Love the black and white photos..


stacy said...

now that you know sadness is a state of mind you're 99% of the way past it!

all the best


Tobey said...

what gorgeous images and lovely words...

terren said...

this is a lovely, perfect, inspiring post.

onomatopoeia said...

ik hoop echt dat het intussen alweer wat beter met je gaat en dat het je lukt om ook de mooie kanten van het leven te blijven zien! ik weet dat het lastig is, maar ik heb alle vertrouwen in toi ;)

hopelijk spreek ik je snel weer!

xary said...

thank you for sharing Your Words, they made me feel like i was seeing myself in a mirror. it's exactly that. and although all emotions can be tricks of the mind, being sad is just as valid as the opposite and can make those positive feelings be much more relevant - when they do come.

whatever the mood you're in, cherish yourself.

your blog is Wonderful, by the way :)

xary, from portugal *

jEeRo said...

hEy Mila
love this sentence-'Whatever comes to your mind, can also go away.
As simple as that.'
its so true what u wrote..its all up to us whether we wanna be happy or sad everyday..
im not basically 1 happy person too..have people call me emo..have people sayin im alwaz sad..maybe that explains why my poems r the way it is?..i duno..
but whatever it is..i hope ur feelin better/happier..try to relax abit..take things easy..learn to let go..im learnin too..
i love rainy days..love the sound/smell of the rain.. thunder n lighting..=)
thkx so much for your lovely comment too..

cleolikesyou said...

mooie tekst hoor, vooral het laatste deel, het zou een goede songtekst zijn:)
ik hoop dat je je al wat beter voelt, of in elk geval een stapje dichterbij bent naar geluk. en ik weet het, het slechte weer versterkt alleen droevige gedachten, heb ik ook wel last van. nog meer van de vroege zonsondergang, ik heb licht nodig! :)
prachtige kleding trouwens!

Anonymous said...

The poem is just beautiful, like you are, lovely girl. Eefje

bronwyn said...

Your poem is so beautiful and haunting, I really like it.


oh Mila like you i complain about the weather,i really dont like the cold! it is so miserable but i need to complain less and just accept.when you think about it,we barely get good weather here in UK so that relatively means im spending all yr round waiting for nice weather before i live.life is too short.my darling such beautiful writing,it has such depth and feeling to it.
stay strong my darling. xx

cassaundra said...

yummy necks!!!

Esmée said...

Love allot of the things you posted! Think this is one of your best blog-post ever...


euni said...

beautiful post.

Outi said...

I know what you mean about complaining.

I am at times very angry with myself about this trait I find in myself.

I have thought about it, about how we must learn to act on what we complain about. It is not enough to speak of the things that make us sad or make us feel bad -- we must recognise teh power we have in us to change things. We all need to talk about what is bothering us, and it can be helpful, and it can make you healthier to share your mind, but at the same time, we must move beyond teh feeling; in a way, I need to remind myself of looking myself from the outside, to know I can chnage things.

Another thing I wanted to say is about what you said you told yourself today (in the post I'm commenting on). I have been thinking about if "change" is a good thing or not. I mean, forced change. I have tried to change myself in many things for years, I have not believed in myself and have thought I must be something else -- to be valuable, or to meet my ideals. But, something I have begun to think about recently is that maybe we cannot ever change... Not much. And even if we do, it is over time, long time. If then. But it is not sad.

What I aim for now is acceptance: What makes me feel better is acknowledging myself as who I am. Someone with good traits and with bad traits... Human.

tigermilk said...

completly brilliant as always. thanks for inspiring me endlessly.

Sayo said...

what a beautiful post! I remember reading somewhere that "happiness is a learned condition..." and I don't remember the rest or even what context it was in but that always stuck with me. Your blog is so lovely and nice. :)

Dominique said...

Wat een mooie post zeg <3

Susanna-Cole said...

Hello dear! <3 I am impressed and nearly overwhelmed by the amount of beauty you manage to pack into each of your posts! And oh my goodness Nygårdsanna's clothes are BEAUTIFUL, the pictures for them are as well, and ah, now I wish I were Swedish so I could buy some pieces from them! :(

Anyway, I also wanted to say I love that picture of Isai in your sidebar, his eyes are so big and beautiful, he's so adorable! <3

Hope you are well my beautiful dear!


Anonymous said...

you always have to remember you are lucky to be alive with everything you have.
beautiful pictures<3

mette said...

So much softness and gentleness in one place...thanks for writing this blog....